Things to do..

I know this could be weird to share with you guys, but I realize there are just something I need to do before I leave town. To begin with, I need to get a new pair of CouberG (equivalent of Goretex but only 1/3 of the price). Trust me – T-shirt, jeans and a pair of CouberG are what I wear everyday. Comfy comes first, being pretty? Nah. I had witnessed quite a scary scene recently, and had a new conception about man-and-woman/men-and-women. Right now I had weirdly adopted the same mindset I had when I was 15, of which all men are evil. Not sure how far away it is from the truth (no, I don’t want to get bogged down into the epistemological aspects of truth, just take the face value here, will you?) but being surround by all the pretty, smart, humorous, generous (and emotionally generous) girlfriends is just simply amazing.

Talking about that, I have to drift from my shopping list to lecturing you guys about the the importance of safety net. There are people when they started off a relationship, they basically ignore all their friends. As much as we try to see things in their light, we can’t help but pissed. What? All the years we invested in the friendship a boy/girl comes by and scoop her/him away?

No, at this point you need to hold back your anger. It’s quite natural that this happens. After all I doubt how many of us can have our superego defeating our id. (well if you are not interested in Freudian you can look up Wikipedia, but having said that we’re not that in tune so you can probably passed this blog anyway…) But if you really treat your friend as your good friend, you will probably remember life is unpredictable. Once they break up they will need your company. So the point is, when you’re dating someone, try to keep the safety net open, keep company to your friends. Meet your girlfriends to discuss what’s going on. Keep your sanity in control.

I realize it’s very important for one to be single, and to travel and while experiencing your own true self. There are people who look at their lives in a here-and-now perspective – they don’t care much about their family, their future, of course not to mention the community and the society they live in. But I had come sense that these people are not necessarily the happiest. Buddhism talks about detachment and how the ability to detach from all the wants and lusts can free your soul – I think this doctrine can be too extreme for some of us, so I adopted it and modified it – when you put other people’s feelings and needs the first, you come to realize yours are not as important, and that empowers and liberates your true wants. After all life is just a journey, and it’s nothing more than just to be with someone you care.

Hm… I guess leaving home for a year is enough to wake up the introspective me – thanks for bearing this by reading the blog up till here. I will write more about my taoism/buddhism thinking when I have the time…

PS: so much about being psuedo-deep… I need to dry clean a jacket that my mom bought me when I was visiting New York during the winter, which is very cute and feather light.